Ok yall I have a friend who we often discuss why the definition of friendship gets lost somewhere in translation. By this I mean people start out saying they wanta be friends then end up hitting on the person. Now in this it always makes the person thinking just friend and being hit on a bit uncomfortable. Ok so maybe more than a bit. Well tonight I was looking up just friends on a search engine just outta curiosity cause I do it on blog search alot. And I want ya all to know what I found was an article asking can a man and woman be just friends. Well I wanta share part of that article....
Marnie Hanel of Tango magazine says, “Sure, men and women can be friends — as long as the dynamic falls into one of four categories: 1) the friends explore their, ahem, benefits — and realize that they like each other better with their clothes on; 2) one of the parties is gay; 3) there are significant others involved and romantic — and sexual — needs are taken care of at home; 4) you’re just not that into each other — in that way.”
Jordan Burchette of Maxim.com agrees, “as long as they’re from your kindergarten class, an ex, or are gay. It also helps if they’re ‘majorly unattracted’ to each other.
Although I think friendship between sexes is possible I think that number 4 is a realistic part of that. Because wanting more and having more are two different things. If your intent is to be more than friends then it would be better to state so up front then to blow someone away with a bombshell they aren't expecting. I have realized from reading these blogs and articles tonight so many think they can make someone love them. But think of this if you change them or force them to love you are they still gonna be the person you fell in love with.
I will end this with one more thing I never thought of that the article I found said. Women forgive, not forget; men forget, not forgive Now if that doesn't show differences nothing will. lol
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